As the sun sets and Saturday night begins the longer you wait the better the sin. This is why patience is a virtue.

I posted that status update on Twitter and Facebook and it got me to thinking.

Part of learning Tantra is learning patience. I like to think of what I call The Slow Seduction.

There is an art to seducing with love and not animal lust. It all depends on the pay off you are looking for. I am looking for the kind of sex that you can’t describe however always leaves you wanting more and only wanting it from that one.

Let me talk to you men out there about how to slowly seduce the woman in your life whether it is your girlfriend or your wife.

The Slow Seduction starts with eye contact and keeping it no matter how desirable you find her flesh and no matter how much of it is exposed at the time. A lesson I learned from half naked dancers at a strip club one summer and believe me their flesh made it a difficult lesson to master. I’m still human.

Conversation.

Talk about what matters to you and listen to what matters to her. Speak from the heart about what makes your heart bleed and what motivates you to do what you do and less about what you do. Let them feel it coming from the inside as you expose your soul through your tales told.

This is also known as intimacy and creating it between the two of you.

This is not something you do going out to dinner in a room full of people or in a bar or anywhere there are crowds. You do this somewhere that the two of you can easily focus on each other without distraction. This is why I like walks in the park or finding a place in the park to just sit and talk.

Neil Diamond sings the art of love is who you share it with. I call him the master of all love songs for a reason.

When it comes to romance, it is sharing everything without holding back that shows how vulnerable you are ready to be. It’s in that vulnerability where the intimacy grows and the bond between you both strengthens.

I tell the women in my life who are looking for a man to look for man with the slow hand and an easy touch. A gentleman is gentle and if you are truly opening yourself to someone, a look can do more than any touch.

Then gentlest of touch and taking your time allows passion to build and it is the time you invest in taking your time for the rest that leads to the best.

This is the nice of saying make the foreplay last as long as you can and be gentle. Once you get to that moment where the love making begins, take your time and enjoy the sin.

If you can do this for a wife or girlfriend on a regular basis she will appreciate you forever and a day.

After that it is all about whatever the two of you desire to explore as the beasts come forth to play with each other enjoying the dark desires you share.

Sex, drugs and Rock ‘N’ Roll.

Sex: Be responsible.

Drugs: Use moderation.

Rock ‘N’ Roll: Well it did get its name for having sex in a car.

This is why I’m The Rock ‘N’ Roll Shaman by life not choice.

There is an art to seduction that is slow and patient and built upon a conversation that never ends.

The intent behind the conversation is not to lead to physical seduction. The intent is to explore and allow yourself to come alive from the inside. When you connect at the higher levels of understanding it builds a stronger emotional bond. It leads to a more intimate connection that has you sharing the depths of yourself instead of playing it shallow just to get laid.

You can feel a sexual attraction to many. Lust has no rules and your inner beast of desire likes to feed in more than one way.

Lust is easy.

An honest conversation is vulnerability.

An intent to know and be known tears down the walls of insecurity and who you are from the core comes forward.

An intent to know and be known in the now in the flow is a sweet surrender to what the Big U is showing you.

When you set that kind if intent and let go, the conversation may take breaks, however it never ends. When you allow yourself to be this vulnerable silence can be comfortable.

Here’s the catch.

You have to be able to be this deep with yourself first.

If you can’t accept and love you as you are, no one else will either.

Be the love you wish you had and find the love that will never stop talking.

We both lie silently still in the dead of the night
Although we both lie close together we feel miles apart inside
Was it something I said or something I did?
Did my words not come out right?
Though I tried not to hurt you
Though I tried
But I guess that’s why they say

Every rose has its thorn
Just like every night has its dawn
Just like every cowboy sings his sad, sad song
Every rose has its thorn

Yeah it does

I love that this bands name is Poison.

Think of it this way, when our romantic relationships are going down the toilet it feels as like we’ve been poisoned by that which we love most.

We all experience those relationships that end for whatever reason. I have been married 3 times however I have been heart and soul broken 8 times and I am working on 9. I forgot one when I was talking about this last night with a brother.

People grow at different rates and often find they grow apart when one has no interest in growing and the other feels the need from within to grow and continue becoming.

The loneliest feeling there is, is when that which we hold dearest to us as we sleep feels as though they are anywhere else. That our presence once loved is now becoming tolerated in hopes things can go back top the they they used to be.

It hurts to grow a part. It hurts to rip that mating of two souls a part as two grow at different rates that can lead to leaving the bliss behind that once was to allow the rose we are to close as the bloom no longer has that sweet smell.

Instead it’s the thorns that make us bleed as we hold on to the stem of what we once had no need to hold. It bloomed always there for us. It offered it’s scent to us alone.

We hurt ourselves by holding on that which was. The stem was the rose before it ever bloomed. If the rose can not be held gently then it will always cause you to bleed.

I listen to our favorite song playing on the radio
Hear the DJ say love’s a game of easy come and easy go
But I wonder does he know?
Has he ever felt like this?
And I know that you’d be here right now
If I could have let you know somehow
I guess

Though it’s been a while now
I can still feel so much pain
Like a knife that cuts you the wound heals
But the scar, that scar remains

Some songs in my life I have let go of. I let go of them so I can find a new song that inspires that feeling based on who inspires that feeling. I let go of the love not lost, the love whose chapter came to an end so a new chapter can begin.

We have all felt like this at one point in our lives or another if we are doing it right and loving hard. Wearing our hearts on our sleeves and being the fools for love that for some of us has led to wisdom.

I met a new sister last night who wise and fiercely strong. Courageous as they come in my opinion.

I needed a new sister I could relate with though our life experience is vastly different however the ones we have become are the reminder we each need on a occasion that sometimes it’s nice to be noticed for who we are and not what we are showing in the moment.

How the pain truly goes away is two stages.

One is to be at peace at the thought of them.

Two is to thank them for the lessons learned so that you could learn to better love who you are.

To love the rose you are ever becoming.

We all have our scars, I call them my lessons of what to not do again if I am to truly love myself as I would want to be loved by another.

This song plays heavily into the metaphors I attach to color. Here’s why.

Loving would be easy if your colors were like my dream
Red, gold and green

Poppa Smoke personal color metaphors 101, please feel free to create your own.

I use purple as I associate it with the crown chakra and the enlightened view one gets in using what red means to me by exercising patience.

To me the opposite of patience is wrath.

Love requires patience to find the understanding that allows wisdom to flow from the heart which to me I use green, which is the color associated with the heart chakra. For an Empath our heart chakra is our energy powerhouse.

I also associate green with friendship.

Laughter is healing energy and you always find ways to laugh at and with your friends and often find yourself being the target of the joke.

I tell people “The more you get to know me, the meaner I get.”

What that means is that as we spend time together we learn from each other what can be taken in jest and the laughter is shared versus anyone feeling disrespected.

It takes patience and time to learn each other’s boundaries. While anything can be funny, not every thing is funny in the moment and some things are only funny to us in the moment.

What good is healing if it can’t be shared?

To me it ain’t worth much.

Get what you give.

That brings me to gold. A color I associate with purity. Let the love be pure to be best friends giving each other the patience to learn from each other why you fit together like pieces to a puzzle.

Every day is like survival
You’re my lover not my rival

I play Magic: The Gathering to compete with my friends.

You never compete with a lover.

When they say “All is fair in love and war.”

It’s not a challenge to make a war out of love.

It means when your lover says “It’s not fair what you do for me and I don’t feel like I do enough for you.”

It’s when you both feel as though there is no way I could be this lucky.

It’s not fair with who they are and everything.

Yet still we love each other and desire to have that conversation that never ends, however gets interrupted by life and naps.

It’s not fair to those who don’t have that in life.

All is fair in love and when in love, fuck fair and enjoy what the Big U wanted give you that you could never ask for.

To do that and have that perfectly flawed flawless reflection of the projection you’ve become, Red, Gold and Green meet another color that only lovers share.

Whisper if you feel me.