If we understand we are 1 in nearly 9 billion people, and then take that with every being in the universe, it takes narcissistic behavior to worry about one.

How important am I?

I’m insignificant compared to the rest of the universe.

How important are you?

Your insignificant compared to the universe as well.

Why is it we feel we’re important?

We have only one view in which to take the world in.

We have emotions.

Emotion plays heavily in thinking we’re important, even though we’re not.

It’s why one must get out of the singular viewpoint and see things from other viewpoints.

One must be calm, taking in another’s view. Emotion will try to take stage. However, that is not the time for emotion.

Anger is what gets most people. They can’t listen without getting angry.

Why?

Because they have trained themselves to get angry whenever x, y, or z happens.

We need to train ourselves to not get angry.

I’ve been working on me not getting angry since Senior Master Sergeant Johnson showed me what angry actually was, and it scared me. That was when I was 20.

For 31 years and counting, I’ve been working to not get angry for any reason.

Because when I get angry, I yell. I yell, and what I yell is intelligent. 

No one ever responds well to anyone yelling. 

I have a hearing sensitivity.  I get told to speak up all the time because what I hear sounds like normal volume. When I speak at normal volume, it sounds like I’m yelling.

When I yell, I’m making myself more important, engaging in narcissistic behavior. 

That fact that I can say that,  means I’m not a narcissist.  Any one of us can use narcissistic behavior.

The trick is to call yourself out on it so that you can change. 

I got woken up last Friday by the industrial leaf blowers for a yard that needs no leaf blower. 8am is when they woke me up from across the street.

It takes me an hour to wake up. I yelled. Another neighbor complained to my landlord.

Tomorrow I’m setting my alarm for 7am, because I’m not that important.