Getting my son’s attention and asking him, was not telling him what he had done, but he figured it out when I asked the question.

That’s the core of building better children.

Not telling them a thing, instead asking them to notice something about their behavior. 

It puts the onus on them.

At 4 years old is when I started using the question. 

At 20, he doesn’t need anyone to ask him a thing, he knows what he’s doing and he does because of how I raised him.

I built a better man through building a better child.

Children are the future.

We cannot ignore this fact any longer if we are going to say we give a shit about our world.

Children are very intelligent.  They are born geniuses.  Then we devolve them to fit in with society. 

This is where autism is an evolutionary step that must be taken.

They see no authority, because the understand there truly is no authority. 

Authority is a societal construct. 

It’s a lie.

Doesn’t matter if one thinks one has authority based on societal rules, the autistic mind knows the truth.

However, society,  any society must have rules and those who have authority to enforce those rules.

This is why highly functional autistic people are right now, our best chance for a future that will be brighter then the darkness from where it came. 

Highly functional autistic people can take care of themselves and are not a drain on the system.

Social security, IHSS, these are autisms  home. I have a buddy who has an autistic son who will never be able to take care of himself.

My buddy worries about his son and what will happen once he dies. His son is 24.

He still goes to school, with other autistic children, and some are in there 30’s.

What contribution to society do they make?

They are a drain on society. 

The fact is that not all children will respond the same.

If the child doesn’t notice anything in their behavior, that’s when you tell them.

Now, I got down on my son’s level.  Showing him respect. 

Emotions are felt even with no words being spoken.

Everyone is empathic to a certain degree.

This is a truth that must be accepted in order to understand anything.

Showing respect to a child gives the child the ability to respect you.

While he knew he was in trouble,  I was respecting him by not yelling at him.

While he knew he was in trouble, I showed him respect by asking him to notice what I noticed.

Respect is something everyone wants, but so few understand what it is.

Is the being insert name here?

If I had another child I wouldn’t use thr nickname,  I use their name.

Is that being James?

Yes.

I know what it means to James.

Look at the Boy Scouts for the list.  I was a Boy Scout.

The Boy Scout Laws are a set of twelve points of conduct for Scouts, stating that a Scout is Trustworthy, Loyal, Helpful, Friendly, Courteous, Kind, Obedient, Cheerful, Thrifty, Brave, Clean, and Reverent.

I don’t like obedient. I’ve always had a disobedient streak.  I’m working on it all the time.

I know what it means to be James.